Why You Don't Have to Be Super Productive All the Time

Today I... 

- Did two loads of laundry
- Went food shopping
- Worked out
- Dropped two boxes full of donations off at the charity shop
- Cleaned the kitchen and bathroom and dusted the rest of the house
- Made and ate lunch
- Bought and set up my new phone

All by mid-afternoon. And it's supposed to be my 'day off'.

But it's what happened after that which has prompted me to write this post. Because, when I'd set up the phone, I spent a couple of hours playing around on it and ultimately got sucked into the rabbit hole that is YouTube. I'd been feeling really energised while I was up and about doing things, but as soon as I sat down, I just crashed. It must have been at least two hours I spent playing around and watching videos.

When I finally snapped out of it, I felt disappointed in myself - like I'd failed because I didn't get around to doing other things I'd planned, like the hoovering and writing a new blog post (which I'm doing now by the way [the blogging, not the hoovering, obvs] to make up for my 'laziness').

My problem is that I constantly need to feel like I'm doing something productive, and when I'm not I feel like I'm wasting time. If I'm not creating content or doing something else 'useful' I give myself a hard time.

When I don't have anything to do I get bored really easily. I'm happy while I'm crossing things off my to-do list for the day, but as soon as I get to the bottom of that list I'm like, "What now?" and feel at a loss. When I don't have the rest of the day planned out I end up feeling like a spare part - and even getting a little depressed.

I don't watch much TV because I feel like it's a waste of time; I could be cleaning something or working out instead. I don't read as many books as I'd like to because I'm thinking that I could be spending the same time writing. I'm my own worst enemy.

I'm sure it's a problem many people have. Especially women. My husband doesn't come home from work and feel the need to start scrubbing the floors or writing posts or responding to emails, so why do I? (Don't worry ladies, he does his fair share of the housework - it's just that when he gets home from a long day, he knows how to relax and unwind). I set such high standards for myself, like cooking dinner from scratch every night and not being able to go to bed while there are dirty dishes in the sink. As well as working full time, I want to be the perfect housewife and blogger. This can never realistically be achieved and ultimately, I'm setting myself up to fail.

But really, what's wrong with taking a break every so often? We all need to rest. We can't produce our best work if we don't step away from it and recharge our batteries from time to time. We need to learn to stop giving ourselves such a hard time if we decide to watch stupid videos on YouTube for a few hours, or even have a nap in the middle of the day. Rest, just like good nutrition and physical fitness, is crucial to health.

What are your thought on this? Are you good at taking time to relax or do you feel like you constantly have to be on the go?

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  1. Oh wow - I can totally relate to this!! I feel a massive sense of failure if I don't keep busy every minute of the day - whether it's cleaning, putting away laundry, emptying the dishwasher, blogging, organising stuff, etc etc. I never feel like I can just sit and do nothing, it feels like a monumental waste of time. Like you, I want to boss everything - being a housewife, blogger and be great at my job. It's just not possible though - we're setting ourselves up to fail. We need to learn to cut ourselves a little slack, and I'm definitely going to be working on that! x www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

    1. Yeah, I'm sure a lot of people feel the same. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Why is it so hard for us to switch off from 'work mode'? I don't know but I'm going to try and stop feeling guilty for relaxing in the future. Thanks for commenting! x

  2. As someone who has only just started blogging this is a great read and relieving as well 😂 good stuff!

  3. Can totally relate to this. Spend yesterday lazying around, watching videos on youtube and reading. Then in the evening I felt bad for wasting my whole day and not writing the post I had intended too. But I needed the break as I was tired from Sunday's events. You are so right we shouldn't be hard on ourselves for taking the time off. Hopefully I will write the post today :)

    1. Sometimes you just need to take time to rest and recharge your batteries. Thanks for reading!

  4. SAME! I'm having the exact same problem. I want to relax, I KNOW I need a break. I want a week long break, if I can, but I feel so lost and like I'm being really bad and unproductive when I'm not actively doing something or producing something (learning to code, writing a blog post, doing a project, studying for certification, etc.). And I really need to figure out how to "unplug" and "reset" and "relax," because I'm completely burnt out. I work all week all day, at "work work." I don't know why I have the compulsion to be doing other work all the time too! Let me know when you find out how to relax and feel refreshed after a "day off"!

  5. I can't really get relaxation, due to my studies and blogging and family commitments and then there is my girlfriend so in a given 24 hours, I always have something to do, but well at least I sleep daily 5 hours. My only day offs are on Saturdays when I travel 240 KMs to my institute and take coaching classes for banking, from 1.30 pm - 7.30 pm. I set out from home at 5.30 reach there by 12.30 have some lunch then classes and then 3 hours of moving here and there and then again train at 11.30 pm I reach home next day at around 5.30 am, and same old week from Sundays to Fridays. :(


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